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Hazzah! When it all works…

Friday, September 17th, 2010

Definition of “Hazzah”: Expression of extreme excitement

There are times when the environment you are in brings out the best in you and you are as productive and satisfied as you could possibly imagine. When your proposals are accepted by the perfect client. When your gifts and talents are not just leveraged but also delighted in. When you feel really known and accepted. Hazzah!

Today’s process visual is the exact opposite of last week’s. Today is about when it works. What happens when you are in environments that are supportive and conducive to true authenticity.

When you get to be yourself you are present – to yourself and others. as a result of being present and in the moment, you are able to experience true and meaningful connections with others. You are able to serve better, create better. When you connect with others, you get to experience life and really live. You not just give but receive in return. This energy fuels the ability to become even more true to yourself which adds to this energetic cycle. Hazzah!

I wonder what it would look like for us to create environments in our homes, workplace and places of worship where there is good soil for our true selves to be planted and flourish. What do you think are the key ingredients of that good soil? What do you think needs to change in our environments for authenticity to be able to planted, nourished and harvested?

© Betsy Jordyn 2010. All rights reserved.

Working for a Snake in a Suit

Friday, September 10th, 2010

I have to give fair warning. This post is probably my most serious and deep (even for me!)

Sue and I had a long and meaningful talk yesterday about our shared mission. She refers to her mission as “setting you free to become all you were meant to be.” I have referred to mine as the “Land of Happy, Healthy and Free.” We both believe that the best way to experience true freedom is to allow sufferring and challenges to do its work to eradicate false systems and beliefs in our lives until they are replaced with authenticity.

As much as we wish that workplaces and homes would be havens for safety and creativity, that is not always the case. We are often faced with dealing with a tormenting boss or individual. In fact, industrial psychologist Paul Babiak, Ph.D. and psychopathy expert Dr. Robert Hare wrote a book on this topic called Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work (2006), which MSNBC describes as being about “unmasking corporate psychos.” A “snake in a suit” is defined as:

Psychopaths have a great sense of superiority and entitlement, and think nothing of helping themselves to property that belongs to others. Their grandiose sense of self-importance leads them to believe that other people exist just to take care of them. Because they see most people as weak, inferior, and easy to deceive, psychopathic con artists will often tell you that their victims deserved what they got. Sometimes their sense of superiority is so great that they will say that they are conferring a gift by letting their victims support them.

My focus for today (Process Visual Friday) is not to discuss the tormenter but more on what happens to the victim. When someone consistently interacts with and is the target of use for the psychopath, the following things likely happen:

1. When some is targeted for use and manipulation, the real self is forced to flee. In essence, the true self has to go into hiding into order to be safe.
2. When that takes place, that person is no longer able to be present…with anyone including themself.
3. Because the real self is hidden, others can only relate to the shell and thus eliminating the meeting of a normal human need for meaniningful connection with others.
4. As a result, life and work becomes an ongoing experience of withdrawal.

Now, here’s the good news! This cycle is breakable and survivors of this type of experience greater strength and enhanced self-esteem…if they allow the experience to transform them. Of course, getting out or getting away from this type of tormenter is the first step. But after that, there is greater freedom than ever dreamed possible. The beauty from ashes in this tale is knowing when the worst has been done. Mario Murillo (www.mariomurillo.com) said that when his wife left him standing in an empty house, having taken the furniture and every last penny: “I said to the devil, ‘Don’t you know what you’ve done? You haven’t knocked me out. You’ve simply made me a man with nothing left to lose.’”

What can frighten you once you’ve been in that position?

© Betsy Jordyn 2010. All rights reserved.

What is Authentic Leadership?

Friday, September 3rd, 2010

Today’s model introduces how I am starting to think about what is authentic leadership. I think authentic leadership is where power and love intersect. Power and use of power are familiar concepts in business and the definining power as control, authority, capacity and influence is more than likely readily understandable and accessible. Love is a different story.

When I talk about love, I am not talking about the feelings shared between parents and children, friends or even lovers. I am talking the concept of love as expressed in Greek as agape which relates more to service and esteem.

Here’s the model:

Sources of power can be internal or external. Focuses of love can be internal or external. How these relate to one another result in one of four leadership styles:

o External source of power and internal focus of love: Alliance Leadership. This style of leadership is about who you know and where you work. Power comes by association with powerful people. Your boss becomes very important to you as you seek to gain what you want by pleasing the right people.
o External source of power and external focus of love: Authoritarian Leadership. This style of leadership is command and control. These leaders are very connected to their titles, office size and location, money and other symbols of power. They accomplish through others.
o Internal source of power and internal focus of love: Reflective Leadership. These leaders start to realize that Authoritarian leadership only works until it stops working. They become reflective and search for integrity and wholeness. They are in an intentional process of finding congruence between internal actions and internal reflections. Their organizational strength is based on their competence and burgeoning self-awareness.
o Internal source of power and external focus of love: Authentic Leadership. These leaders possess the paradoxical blend of humility and channel whatever ego and drive they have into the good of other and radically serving others. They have a purpose beyond themselves. They are settled in their own skin and can radically support the empowerment of others.

I’ll talk next week on how you move from one leadership style to another. In the meantime, what do you think?

© Betsy Jordyn 2010. All rights reserved.

Customer Love Languages

Saturday, August 28th, 2010

I missed on Process Visual Friday. How about Process Visual Saturday?

Todd asked a great question with regards to my process visual last week which was, “How do you create brand evangelists?” I pondered his question all week and I have a potential answer.  The way to create brand evangelists is by knowing your customer’s love language, speaking it often, speaking it well and speaking it better than anyone else.  See the visual below:

I suggest that there are four primary Customer Love Languages based on what your customers are looking for from you in terms of product (either cutting edge or low cost) or service (in terms of efficiency or customization.) I think travelers are start to sing the praises of Southwest Airlines because it speaks the language of consistency of friendly service (e.g. shuffle fun fun on board), efficiency of service (e.g. they call you back vs. you having to wait and you can switch your ticket without fees) and availabiity and reliability of flights. They are in the lower left quadrant and they do it better than anyone else. Chick-Fil-A might be in that same quandrant. Apple might be in the upper left quandrant. They speak the language of cutting edge features that way outpaces anyone else. The upper right quandrant might be Bentley with the ability for the customer to decide what it wants and the unique features the car offers.

I’m not sure who is in the lower right quandrant yet.

What do you think? Agree? Disagree? Todd, Lee…you know I want to hear from you!

© Betsy Jordyn 2010. All rights reserved.

Customer Commitment – Beyond Satisfaction

Friday, August 20th, 2010

I am introducing a new category of my blog. I am calling it Process Visual Friday so that I can post these things that I am contantly creating and start some dialogue/get some feedback on the concepts I am creating.

Here’s today’s. I call this visual – Beyond Satifaction – Creating Customer Commitment and Engagement

The explanation of this visual is:

• Satisfaction is the go/no go place – You have to at least have customers who are consistently satisfied to have any hope for commitment from your customers
• A customer that is satisfied consistently over time will use your products and services again and again and become your BRAND LOVERS. They love your brand. For example, I love Coke products. I get Diet Coke or Coke Zero all the time. I order it restaurants. I buy it and have it at home.
•The next phase is when they will only use your brand. They become BRAND LOYALISTS. For example, Hawaii has a lot of pepsi products. When vacationing in Hawaii I bought a cup that allowed me unlimited refills on soda. Sadly, I discovered the only soda that was available was Pepsi. I searched my hotel and found one bar that sold coke products and spent extra money to buy a coke there. I am loyal to Coke. No Pepsi.
• The ultimate is when your customers become your BRAND EVANGELISTS. Not only will only use you but love you so much that they preach your praises to others. Clearly, the financial gain of brand evangelists is exponentially larger in that you retain your existing customers (who will buy more from you) and they recommend you to others (who will spend money and you get to avoid costs associated with customer acquisition)
• It is essential for a company to have a larger vision because satisfaction is just a short-term starting point. If you don’t have it, you don’t stay in business for long.
• It is not as important to where you are on the continuum as much as having a committed vision to creating brand evangelists, not just satisfied customers.

What do you think? Clear? Agree? Disagree?

© Betsy Jordyn 2010. All rights reserved.